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Success. Beyond the Hammer: How Fear Traps Us in Old Ways of Thinking
Watching Mulholland Drive was a lightning-strike moment, a sudden recognition of how often we misdiagnose situations.
We stride down a path, not realizing our assumptions have led us miles off course.
Our minds default to familiar tools. It’s like a golfer who only knows how to use three clubs, applying them to every shot. Or like looking at the world through a zoom lens instead of a wide angle. We constantly reuse information from our formative years, so when something new appears, we immediately rifle through the past to understand it.
The result? We each live within an illusion, seeing the world through heavily tinted lenses. We act as if we are a hammer, and everything before us is a nail. The problem is: it doesn’t work.
We were stunned by how easily we fell into this trap, how quickly we interpreted events to make them seem logical, how desperately we searched for closure. To feel comfortable, we categorize. We slot happenings into boxes like a librarian coding books: That goes in the family box. That is rude. That is unacceptable. That proves he’s uneducated.
You could argue this mental coding is efficient, it helps us navigate life quickly.
BUT!
Why do we insist on putting ourselves and others into ‘psychological boxes’? Why label ourselves as one type of person? Why limit ourselves and sell ourselves short?
It’s like being a carpenter whose only tool is a hammer. We restrict ourselves beyond belief. How can you feel passionate if your only response is to bluntly hammer every new idea? How do you discover your purpose if you react the same way to every challenge? How do you help children grow if they only see one mode of problem-solving? How do you address society’s complex issues if you apply the same ill-fitting reasoning?
As New York dance photographer Howard Schatz wrote:
“I told each dancer that when it was easy, it had probably been done before, probably many times. I explained that only when it was so hard that it was nearly impossible were we perhaps close to getting something unique and extraordinary.”
Perhaps we categorize because we dislike hard work.
Maybe we fear the pressure of being our true selves, because authenticity requires standing out.
Could it be that we’re uncomfortable with being unique and extraordinary, so we settle for similar and ordinary?
Are we afraid of who we might become? Afraid that acknowledging our own talent would obligate us to live more boldly?
Do we secretly not want to know what we’re truly capable of?
We don’t know about you, but we want to be unique. We want to discover and use that uniqueness. We want fulfillment, to tap into the energy released when we do what we’re meant to do. We want to be “in the flow.”
What stops us?
Fear.
Fear keeps us categorizing people and situations.
Fear stops us from leading ourselves.
Fear prevents us from letting go of the past.
Fear locks our habitual patterns in place.
Being frightened, feeling second-best, these bury our natural selves.
As Abraham Maslow reflected:
“A musician must make music, an artist must paint, a poet must write, if he is to be ultimately at peace with himself. What a man can be, he must be.”
What about you?
Unlock Your Potential: The Power of Intentional Goal Setting
Goal setting success often eludes many people.We all wish to be successful and yet somehow we seem to be missing the target. We will show you how to become more successful in all your endeavors. Success often eludes many people. Like the inevitable pot of gold at the end of the rainbow, people set their hearts on following their dreams only to wake up disappointed. Disappointment can be crushing to people. They sit and wonder what on earth they did wrong.
They may have a strong belief in that pot of gold, but a dream alone cannot make your visions a reality. You may have read a myriad of books and followed all the rules and imagined yourself as the successful person that you want to be. Your vision may be crystal clear and that is a good thing. What are your dreams? What are you hopes for the future?
Have you ever written them down? If you could be anything that you wanted to be and go where you wanted to go, who would you be? What would you be like? Where would you be living? Now ask yourself this question: What do I need to do in order to live the life I dream of? What do I need to do to make my dreams a reality? The first step is to make sure you do not put off the vision too far in the distance.
Don’t live on tomorrow’s sunshine. At the same time, don’t expect to have a change overnight. There is no magic pill that is going to bring about your dream. There is no easy road that will bring you to the Emerald City. Someone once said “the road to success is filled with hard knocks” and this is reality. You CAN achieve your dreams only if you systematically prepare yourself to receive them.
You also must believe that you CAN receive them. Henry Ford said, “If you think you can, you can, and if you think you can’t, you can’t” If you believe that you CAN achieve your dreams then it’s time for you to start planning on how you are going to make your dreams of success come true. Don’t let fear sabotage your thinking. If you have faith, you can move mountains! Sometimes though a mountain must be moved a piece at a time.
This takes planning. No amount of wishful thinking will get you what you want. Your vision may be crystal clear but without a plan it’s just a dream. You need to plan your life in order to get the results you wish for. You need to set goals for yourself. I know, you hate the thought of setting goals, but unless you put it down in writing and give it a date, it won’t happen. I can guarantee it.
Goal Setting Success
Do you see yourself as slim and sitting on a beach somewhere?
Well if you need to lose weight, dreaming isn’t going to make it happen. You must write down your goal for losing weight. In order for my dream to come true I must lose __________ pounds. This is a good start. Now visualize yourself standing in front of a mirror weighing your perfect weight. Doesn’t that feel good?
This is your target, your dream, your vision. Now ask yourself, in order to reach that goal, what steps do I need to take today. Is it reasonable to say to yourself that you could lose 10 pounds a month? Too much? How about 4 pounds a month? Can you make a decision to yourself to lose 1 pound a week.
In a year that would be 52 pounds! If you lost 2 pounds a week that would be 104 pounds! See how much you can do by breaking your goals down to bite size pieces. Your mountain can literally be moved piece by piece, or pound by pound in this example. Voila ! Success! There is nothing mystical in making your dreams a success. In every situation you can do it piece by piece until your mountain is moved and you achieve Success.
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